By Julie Lythcott-Haims
Whether parents are trying to corral a tumultuous toddler or snip the proverbial apron strings of a twentysomething, Julie Lythcott-Haims’ approach to parenting exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and presents an alternative for raising them to self-sufficient adulthood.
Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways over-parenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society as a whole. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to over-helping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary to learn from them.
As a psychologist, sociologist, anthropologist and mother rolled into one, Lythcott-Haims skillfully reminds us that we are charged with transforming children into adults capable of meeting the challenges of life head-on, with self-reliance and confidence.
Reviewed by Staff